Difficult conversations don't have to wait until someone reaches a crisis.

Sometimes connection begins with something as simple as noticing, asking, listening, and giving another person room to be honest about what they are experiencing.

You don't need the perfect words.

You just need to start the conversation.

Try asking:

“How are you really doing?”

“You seem like you've been carrying a lot lately. Want to talk?”

“What would make today a little easier?”

“Do you want advice, help finding a solution, or just someone to listen?”

Sometimes the most important thing we can give another person is a place where they don't have to pretend everything is okay.

You don't have to solve everything.

Listen.

Ask questions.

Be curious about their experience.

Let them tell you what they need instead of assuming you already know.

You might ask:

“What has helped you before?”

“Is there someone else you would feel comfortable talking with?”

“What do you need right now?”

“Would it help if we found another resource together?”

Sometimes another person becomes part of the toolbox.

One conversation may lead to another person, another resource, another tool, another reason, or another tomorrow.

If someone tells you they are thinking about suicide, take them seriously.

Ask directly and calmly about suicide. 

Listen without judgment and help them connect with additional support.

In the United States, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. 

You can also contact 988 when you are concerned about someone else.

If someone is in immediate danger or you cannot keep them safe:

Call 911 or seek emergency assistance.